This mornings thoughts (well, late morning… okay, fine afternoon) are brought to you by Trader Joe’s GF pumpkin pancakes! Yum! A while ago I started an ongoing series entitled “Thoughts Over Breakfast” here at 47 Grove. As I sat down to write this post I thought to myself “who am I kidding?”… anyone who knows me knows that I don’t do breakfast. Mainly, because I don’t do mornings. So, let’s go with brunch! I adore brunch. Plus, I love featuring real meals that I actually eat in real life (no stock photos to be found on this post). I thank the Lord for Fall because TJ’s is again selling their infamous GF pumpkin pancakes! If you have not tried these and you love all things pumpkin… you aren’t living. They are better than the regular (non GF) pumpkin pancakes they sell. Try it out. So, now that we’ve discussed the food here’s what I’m thinking about this morning over brunch.
Anyone else in the stage of life like I am where you sometimes will do everything possible to avoid the “B” word? Yes, that’s right. BABY. BABIES. BABES. Anything that sounds like babies. You too? Good, I’m glad to hear. My husband and I are finally at the point in our lives where soon babies should be a reality. EVERYONE seems to be asking “so when are you gunna get pregnant?” or “when are you gunna have babies?” Lately my response has been “WORKING ON IT!” Wow, it’s a lot of pressure. We’ve been married over 5 years and bought out first house last year. Clark is in his 30’s now. I guess that means its time! Alrighty.
To be honest, we really would love to get pregnant. However, none of reasons listed above alone are viable reasons to have a kid. I find it frustrating that women especially get this question as soon as they get married or definitely once they’re out of the newlywed stage and no baby. It feels like you’re implying I’m doing something wrong because I am not pregnant yet. Smh. This question of babies usually comes in a package deal with a weird face. Like with eye brows raised and bug eyes “hello? where’s the baby bump? why aren’t you guys gettin it done?” Fix your face please! Secondly, when this question is asked one can never tell if that couple is actually struggling with infertility. Infertility is one of the most heartbreaking heart-wrenching struggles for millions of couples. So, please! Bring it up more! Send me ANOTHER reminder of this grief! Imagine a woman had just recently had a miscarriage. Wow, you would never know. I once went through an entire missions trip in a third world country thinking that I was having a miscarriage. It ended up being something else, but the point is that NO ONE could have known what I was going through (other than my husband).
Since Clark and I got married our students have enjoyed the
occasional frequent Facebook pregnancy prank. Finally, one of our friends Ryan had enough! He commented on a fake ultrasound status and basically said people need to CHILL because you never know what a couple is dealing with and you could quite possibly be stirring up something very personal and painful. Tell em Ryan! Come to find out he and his wife had really been struggling with getting pregnant. Ryan to the rescue. Now he and his wife have two GORGEOUS kids… a boy and a girl who are twins and amazing! Praise God. Ryan is so right though. Can anyone tell me why my uterus is your business? Or even worse… my sex life! That aint none of yo business.
Now, I’m not necessarily targeting those close family members or your best of friends. Although, sometimes they can be the WORST! I’ve shared with my mom and sister all about where we are with pregnancy. Let this thought over brunch be a reminder to everyone to be kind, careful, and considerate when approaching the subject of pregnancy with another human. In fact, why don’t you forget about it all together? Unless it’s your wife, your sister, or your daughter and you’re having an open and honest conversation that each party welcomes… forgetta bout it. Just be supportive and pray for your non-pregnant friend. Worry about your own uterus.
A little raw honesty for you today. Enjoy your pancakes!