Do you ever feel like your life is moving so fast and you’re just doing your best to try to keep up? I think most people can say they have experienced a period of time in their life when this was true. I know for me, I have experienced this feeling quite a few times throughout my life. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my life and I am so fulfilled and happy with the season that my husband and I are in. Yet, sometimes I feel like I just need to take a breather and try to catch up!
For example, at the end of the month my husband and I will look at each other and say, “Okay. Let’s not plan anything for the next couple weeks, but this last month was insane!” In total agreement we think our plan is bulletproof. Then, the next thing we know, we’re looking at our calendar for the next month and it’s already chock-full and we’re wondering how on earth this has happened again? I’m sitting here smiling as I write this because I know EXACTLY how this happens. We fill it up! Between meetings with team leaders, dinners with friends and families, ministry events and more, we just can’t seem to stay away from being busy. But in the end, we make these plans and we love it! We do these things out of our love for our jobs, ministry, and others. People are our passion and we are honored to be able to do what we do.
Now all that being said, this chaotic schedule can be extremely exhausting! Mondays are our day off and by the time they roll around, I just want to sleep until noon and watch TV all day. And yet, now there’s another problem. I feel like crap after being a couch potato all day, so then I convince myself that next monday we have to get up and do something fun and exciting since it’s our only day to ourselves! You see the vicious cycle?
The more I thought about this lovely routine we have, I realized that sometimes we just need rest. And then I asked myself, “What is rest, exactly?” I think that rest comes in many different forms. Sometimes rest really is just sitting on the couch. Other times its going to a quaint little coffee shop [like today] and just enjoying time to do what I want to do…meaning sitting on Pinterest and pinning to my hearts content! These are the silly kinds of rest that sometimes we really need, but then there’s rest that is runs deep and is truly needed in order to not burn out. This type of rest is going on a date with my man and just focusing on each other. Sometimes it’s sitting and reading my bible by myself, with no interruption. But you know what all these types of rest have in common? I have to make the decision and effort to actually have rest. WOW. Mind-blowing isn’t it?
In order to find rest in the chaos of life we have to stop and let life go on without us for just a bit. Sometimes we have to say “no.” We can’t always do everything we want to do and we have to put our needs, or the needs of our marriage/family first. Finding this balance is crucial, but certainly not easy to do. So how then, do we find rest? I think I can boil it down to three steps.
1. Make a plan.
First, you must create a plan that is actually achievable. For my husband and I, mondays have become sacred! We made a decision to make mondays our day to just be together and do whatever we want, aka, RESTING! Usually that means date night, but sometimes we opt for just staying home. Either way, we both have the understanding that we do not plan things for mondays. Of course every once a while we’ll make exceptions but only if we are both 100% on board.
2. Create boundaries.
Since my husband and I work together we know that we have to make boundaries for our “rest” time. This means no talking about work! We can talk about work all other 6 days of the week, mondays we have plenty other things we could be talking about. Also, now that the weather is getting so nice, I told Sterling that we have to start getting out and exploring! I will go crazy if I just sit inside all day when it is beautiful outside. So once again we find the balance of sitting on the couch for an hour or two in the morning and then heading out to do something fun! Even if I have to drag him out of the house sometimes. [insert wink face here!]
3. Stick with it!
In order for this to work you have to stick with it! So of course sometimes exceptions have to be made, but don’t make it a habit! Create a plan that will work, and if it doesn’t then adjust, but never give up! We’re all humans and we get tired. If we want to have balance in our lives we must make healthy decisions that will enable us to be healthy people. It helps when you have someone to hold you accountable. My husband and I have one another, but I also have people like my sister who understand what our life is like and will encourage me to find balance and rest!
I encourage you to take a moment to stop and evaluate what you want your life to look like. Are you caught up in the chaos or are you able to find rest in the midst of it all? Make a change. Find the balance!